I seemed to always end up with the wrong guy while I watched my friends end up with their right guys. After a divorce and meeting some more wrong guys, I met Mark. It all started on Match.com.
I was a divorced single mom. I worked during the day and went to graduate school at night. Any and all free time I had (which wasn’t much) was spent studying or with Nolan. Even though I was extremely busy, I still longed for that “perfect” relationship. So I gave Match.com a try and I’m so glad I did.When I came across Mark’s profile, it was one I think many women would pass over. He had one picture, and he didn’t have much information about himself posted. He kept it simple. I don’t remember exactly what it said, but I do remember it said something about finding someone who likes to take walks. It was refreshing to me, as I had gotten sick of reading through profiles of men who went on, and on, and on about themselves. Mark’s profile seemed real and down to earth. And hey, I love to take walks! I sent him a “wink”, and the rest was history.
Our circumstances since we met have never been perfect or easy, but we always make it through together. It seems that we have had one stress after another – and I’m talking about major stressful life events that many people never have to go through in their lifetime. Things that the statistics say break up marriages. Amazingly, somehow Mark and I manage to keep our relationship insulated from the various stressors we’ve been given.I think it’s because we are actually soul mates.
I know, it’s cliché, and mushy, and I used to roll my eyes too. Until I met Mark. No one has a perfect relationship, but we are perfect for each other. I am strong where he is weak, and he is strong where I am weak. We bring out the best in each other. We are on the same page most of the time. He is the friend, husband, and father that I wanted, but thought I would never find. But the best part of our relationship I can’t put into words. I’ve sat and tried to think of the words that would accurately describe why we work and I can’t. He makes my heart smile.We spent our anniversary at a viewing. My dear friend lost her mother the day before Thanksgiving. We were happy to be there for my friend, and spending our special day at a sad event seemed like it was par for the course. We still managed to enjoy the evening and had good conversation during our car ride.
Cheers to many more years together! I love you Mark!!Oh, and on a funny side note: When I was in elementary school (I think 4th grade maybe), my science fair project was “How Cows Make Milk”. We could choose anything we wanted. I had no connection to dairy farming….didn’t live on a dairy farm, didn’t know any dairy farmers. But for some reason, I felt compelled to search out a dairy farmer, visit his farm, and learn all about how cows make milk. I even made it to the state finals with my project. Now, how funny is it that years later, I marry a dairy farmer? I’m telling you – soul mate!
Now you can go puke due to my soul mate references :)